Amethyst Sober Living saved my daughter’s life!

Amethyst Sober Living saved my daughter’s life!

After years of narcotics abuse, my daughter was at crossroads as she nearly drove through my house in her car. That was my bottom as her mother and my enabling ended. Neither she nor I could deny her problem. Unknown to me she had been trying to find help for several months with no luck. We called all the numbers that advertised help and without insurance, there was no help. We did find a clinic willing to help which worked for about a month, but there was no focus in long-term abstinence from drugs.

Another crisis with her living arrangements and transportation became a problem and we began looking for somewhere in Bakersfield for her to live and recover. We were fortunate to find Amethyst Sober Living, which had just opened. For the first time in six years, I was able to sleep without worrying about my daughter. I had peace and the reassurance that my daughter was safe and getting the right help.

She lived at Amethyst Sober Living for 15 months and is now independently living on her own, parenting her child and working a full time job. Her life was saved with the love and support of the Amethyst approach,

Amethyst’s approach is comprehensive. It is not just a roof over their heads and a bed. The approach is comprehensive including definitive rules and guidelines. The women are required to attend meetings and medical treatments to focus on their addiction, treatment and recovery. They make goals, get sponsors and work the program. After a time the women are required to serve as a volunteer and eventually obtain a job as they re-learn daily survival skills. These survival skills include being responsible for their rooms, doing routine chores, interacting with housemates, learning to resolve conflict, cooking, laundry and looking forward to independence. My daughter learned these skills as a young adult but as the addiction took over her life, she neglected to perform which affected her child and all those around her. We worked closely with Magda and Elizabeth for the 15 months that my daughter was in Amethyst.

When it was time for her to move into her own place, they supported and encouraged her. She continues to attend meetings at Amethyst and considers Magda and Elizabeth part of her extended family and a primary support for her in Bakersfield.

Amethyst takes these women in crisis and in love work with them to recover. The women learn that they are accountable for their own behavior and with encouragement and support transform their lives.

Magda and Elizabeth truly care about the women in Amethyst and this does not change when the women move out. Magda and Elizabeth have become part of our family and we are so thankful for their dedication to help those that are in crisis of addiction. If you want a comprehensive, loving and supportive sober living environment, I would highly recommend them to your family. They can help them restore and save their lives.

Valerie K.